feel normal<\/a>, but never get there, whereas you are always in that place. Enjoy it. <\/p>\n\n\n\nAfter a couple of drinks, the alcohol starts to shut down parts of the drinkers\u2019 brains, and after a couple more they start to slur, repeat themselves and get sensitive and argumentative. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Hello liberation!<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
If you are at a boring party or social event, then as a non-drinker you may quite rightly feel bored, but if it\u2019s a great event, or a bar with a lovely atmosphere, then finding yourself in a crowd full of people who are inebriated is liberating. So do what you want, because the only person who will remember with crystal clarity is you! Let your hair down and dance like no one will remember watching you. If you want to, be frivolous and carefree. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Without alcohol, everything that you do when you\u2019re out socially is a conscious decision, and you know that you can stand by it the next day. It\u2019s an unfortunate truth that the same cannot be said of the people in the corner of the bar downing vodka and tonics. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
How to deal with feeling awkward at events?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
If, after celebrating your escape from the con, you continue to find social events awkward for a while then the best way to resolve this is to practice kindness and compassion to yourself. If you have spent many years having a swift glass or two of wine before attending a social event to help you overcome social anxiety, then your coping mechanisms will take some time to strengthen because you\u2019ve not needed them before. You\u2019ll soon adapt and will be stronger for it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Be kind to yourself and take baby steps. Spend some time at these events just quietly observing what you see around you, relax and listen. Remember that when you were a drinker you may have thought you were the life and soul of the party, and that is exactly what the drinkers around you think they are now. Just watch the life and souls of the party getting slowly more drunk, as you sit there becoming more self-assured. Every time you go into a social event as a non-drinker your confidence and your capabilities will be growing, as you learn perhaps for the first time to navigate these situations without alcohol. Most drinkers will be far too worried about getting their own glass topped up to worry about what\u2019s in yours. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
As humans we all have a propensity to fear change, and yet we know that change is a constant in our lives. Everything that we have ever done and achieved had to be done from a point of unknowing. And yet we did, and we achieved. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you have anxiety …<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
This means that you know with absolute certainty that you are highly capable of doing things today that you have not done before. It doesn\u2019t matter particularly whether there is anxiety or uncertainty attached to doing something, what matters is that you do it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
There is one certain way to fail at doing something and that is to not do it at all. You have the choice to stay on the burning shore, and live in the grip of the con artist, or you can step out tentatively and do something you\u2019ve never done before.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You may argue that you have given up alcohol before. This time you know that you are not giving up anything. When you are in my world, you are working through my transformative Legacy Process. This is the intelligent woman\u2019s method for transformational change with no willpower required!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You are saying goodbye to the most toxic and poisonous psychological relationship that you\u2019ve ever had. <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
All you need to do is be quietly assertive when the subconscious child tries to help you by suggesting that the best thing to do is to have a drink. When you say goodbye to the con artist, you\u2019ll be reminding that child calmly and confidently that isn\u2019t what you do any more. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
You\u2019re about to do something amazing and it will be amongst the best, if not the best thing that you have ever done. You may not know it yet. But you soon will. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Social Secret is your birth right, and if you would like to book a call with me<\/a> maybe we can start to write it into your life story.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"As a confident non-drinker you will have so much more rewarding relationships, you will enjoy better health, you will be calmer than you could have imagined, and you will be more capable and able to deal with the challenges in life in your sober future. You will be able to go out in the…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":6,"featured_media":2147,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[33],"tags":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.thealcoholcoach.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2409"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.thealcoholcoach.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.thealcoholcoach.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.thealcoholcoach.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/6"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.thealcoholcoach.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2409"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.thealcoholcoach.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2409\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3669,"href":"https:\/\/www.thealcoholcoach.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2409\/revisions\/3669"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.thealcoholcoach.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2147"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.thealcoholcoach.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2409"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.thealcoholcoach.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2409"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.thealcoholcoach.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2409"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}