<\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\nDrinking to the point where blood alcohol levels incur blackouts is dangerous physically and psychologically both to you and to those around you. My client group of capable professional women are a mix of those who live alone and those you have partners, teenage children at home, and grown-up children who have left home. The impact of blackout drinking episodes on the people in the drinker\u2019s life is enormous. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
You may have no recollection of the events yourself, and after the event you can possibly excuse yourself by saying that you have no memory, and effectively that you weren’t there. But, for the people that you live with, you were there. The same you<\/em> was there who they recognise the next morning. You look the same. You sound the same. But you are not the same, and your relationship is no longer the same either.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/span>Alcohol Blackout Behavior<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\nA blackout drunk drinker is a scary person to be around because they may look like themselves, but they often don’t act like themselves. They are often volatile emotionally, unreasonable, irrational, unpredictable and at times frightening. It is very hard to be with someone you love who is displaying these emotions and behaviours, and who then wakes up the next day acting as though everything is okay.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
As the drinker, you will know that everything is far from okay, but because your memory has blacked out and guilt is present, you may well find yourself trying to make everything OK, and smooth over the stormy waters. Your loved ones may see your efforts to reassure them and may forgive you, but they are wary, and the trust is damaged. That is inevitable and if anybody says otherwise, there being kind but not honest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Not all alcohol blackouts or an indication have an alcohol drinking problem, but more than one episode over let’s say a 12 month Is an indication of a problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In a study by Professor Nutt covering alcohol was found to be the most dangerous drug on the planet it scored 55 out of 100 compared to heroin and cocaine scoring 35 and 32 out of 100 respectively. One of the reasons that alcohol scores so highly is because of the things that people do when they’re drunk and the effect those behaviours have on others. People can drive cars and not remember, people can have arguments and fights and not remember, people can cause fires and not remember.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/span>Blackout Drunk Anxiety<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\nWaking up with unexplained bruises is an indication that there was a memory loss the night before and there was add blackout of some variety. Not all blackouts completely obliterate memory, and sometimes there are patches of memories with gaps between: these are called brownouts, or brown outs. They are equally disconcerting, upset and worrying for the drinker.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Blackouts are a huge source of anxiety for a drinker, and the gnawing anxiety can last for days as fragments of an event are pieced together.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/figure>\n\n\n\n<\/span>Blackout Drunk Alone<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\nIf you live alone, and at times, drink until you have blackouts, then you are putting yourself in psychological harm, and also physical harm, because there is nobody there to notice or to help you if you have an accident. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
I often talk to professional high-powered women who have ended up in hospital having fallen down the stairs and hit their head when drunk with no recollection of having done so. If you live alone, you are also more likely to text friends or relatives when you’ve been drinking, and those texts can leave you with feelings of guilt and shame when you wake up the next day and those messages are read. As the conscious brain starts to shut down due to the consumption of alcohol, drinkers say and do things that they would never do if they weren’t drinking. Alcohol is a psychoactive drug which reduces emotional regulation, and this changes behaviour. Texting an ex and not remembering doing so, is just another symptom of black out drunk episodes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
if you are having regular blackouts, or fractured memory loss after drinking maybe it’s just time to take an honest look at the situation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The perhaps not so obvious thing to understand is that you are not alone here, and blackout is an effect of alcohol on the human biological system.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When I drank, I had many episodes of both blackout embarrassing episodes, and brown outs as well. Maybe you resonate with me when I talk about trying to pull together the threads of what happened last night and going around the house looking for evidence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
On one episode, I found an iron burn in the carpet, and absolutely no recollection of how it got there. If I didn\u2019t know that, then what else might have happened? It was dangerous, and potentially harmful to myself, my children and the house itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A brown-out episode may leave you with fragments of a conversation, or an argument as you then find yourself the next day in a conversation about what was said. You may then find yourself trying to figure out what happened filtered through the emotional response of your partner or children. You will never know how close this is to the truth, and this can leave you feeling uncertain and under confident in yourself. I know this to be true, because I was in this position of faltering confidence many times myself. All that you can be left with is apologising for something you don\u2019t remember, never being able to defend what may have happened, because there is no memory of it. This gives power to others around you, which can be abused, and even if it isn\u2019t, it may leave you feeling uncertain about yourself, and you may start to question your judgement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
On the other hand, you may have loved ones who quickly forgive you giving you a feeling of childlike safety. But this isn\u2019t authentic either, and it puts your family and friends in the position of a black out saviour, rather than standing side by side as equals. A relationship of love born out of guilt and forgiveness is based on abuse of that relationship, both for you and the other people involved. It is a constant drama of guilt and forgiveness, broken trust, and fear, and an inevitable breakdown of the relationship over time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I have clients who woke up in hospital with stitches, and then two weeks later went back to their high-powered HR director job, doctors who text their ex-husband in a drunken stupor, only to find out with horror the next day when they switched their phone on, and a lawyer who ran over the family pet in a drunken brown out. Piecing together the evidence of what happened and what didn\u2019t is not only frightening, and survival driven, it is stressful, mortifying, and exhausting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If this is you, then you don\u2019t need to be in that place anymore. You can step into authenticity, your power, and a place where you can find the peace that you seek in the midst of life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Blacking out when drunk is caused by the levels of alcohol in the blood, or Blood Alcohol Levels. When the level of alcohol reaches a point that is different for different people, the brain is unable to make memories. The person is likely seen to be functioning, albeit with changed, alcohol-induced behaviour. But the frightening part of being blackout drunk is that there are no memories. Having no memory of events is frightening, and disorienting. It is being truly out of control, and also being unable to control what happens in the aftermath, because, basically, you don\u2019t have a leg to stand on with any feedback that comes your way. You may, as I did, pretend that you know what happened, but you don\u2019t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Alcohol blackout behavior is no different to alcohol-induced behaviour that you may remember. The difference is amnesia.<\/p>\n\n\n\n