Alcohol, my toxic, blackout drinking, memory loss causing EX best friend
Alcohol, my toxic, blackout drinking, memory loss causing EX best friend had me conned for many years, into thinking it was an important part of my life, and that I didn’t have a drinking problem. I just liked a drink, and what was the harm in that?
The blackout from drinking and memory loss were all part and parcel of my toxic relationship with alcohol. It played an important part in my life. Alcohol was my best friend, always there for the good times the bad times and when things got ugly. For any celebration or commiseration, we celebrated or commiserated with a glass of champagne or wine, maybe a beer or a few…
Right now, you probably believe that alcohol is an important part of your life too. Turning to the bottle for any occasion. But you’ll also know that supping those glasses of wine or beer each night, or partying hard at the weekend, is causing a problem. Alcohol may be affecting your health, your work, or your relationship, or maybe all three.
You may be realising that the hangovers are feeling worse, or that you feel tired all day until a drink in the evening miraculously wakes you up. Waking up full of remorse and anxiety, with a thumping head, and a questionable or even non-existent recollection of last night’s events is far from fun, relaxing or stress-free. In fact, it’s diametrically opposite. And vowing never to do it again only to pour a glass of red wine at dinner isn’t good for long term self-esteem, either, as you find yourself in a constant cycle of internal mental battles, over which reaching for a glass always wins.
The result is that the real you, the conscious-minded part of you that doesn’t want to drink, fails. Always. And I know, because I always failed too. If I’d had a particularly boozy Saturday night with friends and felt hellish the next day, I’d be proud of myself that I didn’t have a glass of wine that evening. The fact that I was still feeling queasy from the night before didn’t enter my head as being the reason for my evening of abstinence.
When I decided to stop drinking for a while, like on a hungover 1st of January having decided to do a dry month, I’d start off feeling amazingly positive and determined. All my resolve and positive vision of self, drinking green tea every evening, was primed and ready for action. I would spring open the fridge and give the bottle of wine a ‘Ya boo,’ scoff before putting it firmly in the back of the cupboard, with a ‘See you in February,’ smile.
I’d go to the pub and loudly order a diet coke, telling the bar tender that I was doing Dry January. I might as well have stood on the bar, grabbed a microphone, and shouted to the room, ‘Look at me with my diet coke everyone! Look at me controlling alcohol. I’m not drinking Chardonnay or Merlot here today my friends, so I DON’T HAVE AN ALCOHOL PROBLEM.’ Thou doth protest too much.
By around the 20th of January I was usually bored with Dry January and poured myself a large, chilled glass of white wine to celebrate my abstinence. A week later and I had my nose back in the fridge at wine o’clock, waking up on Saturday morning with a remorseful hangover.
For someone who is fundamentally a smart person, none of that made me feel very smart. And that’s the problem, drink makes a fool of everyone, even the most successful and well educated of us.
What you’re about to find out is that the whole package that is wrapped up in the glass in your hand is the result of a very clever and long-drawn-out confidence trick. It’s a confidence trick that has drawn you in, like it did me, and millions of others, and one that you have completely trusted.
All con tricks work because the con artist gains your trust, implicitly. You believe in them, who they say they are, and the benefits that you believe they can bring you.
The psychological brainwashing of addiction happens in the subconscious mind, and this is the part of your mind that says, ‘Oh go on then,’ when your conscious mind is sitting there with its arms crossed and a large banner with the words, ‘I’m not going to drink today’ emblazoned in bold lettering. This explains why we feel stupid when we’ve gone to such lengths, just to cave in five minutes later.
If you knew for a fact that you had been a victim of a con trick that had trapped you, would you want to get out?
Alcohol is the basis of a confidence trick of pandemic proportions, with millions of people across the world being caught out and being caught in the trap. Alcohol is embedded in every crevice of our society and for many it’s a trusted friend. It has won the confidence of people like you and me who genuinely believe (as I used to) that it adds value to their lives, and that life without it would be deficient. Alcohol is also the cause of inordinate suffering and misery for millions of people who find they can’t live with it and can’t live without it.
So what can we do to escape the alcohol con?
For me, my turning point was the discovery of The Social Secret and the beginning of a new chapter in my life. Before this discovery, to the outside world, I was living the dream as a very successful high flying career women who had everything. I had a loving family, successful high performance career and salary to match, wealth, nice holidays, luxury lifestyles etc…but I hid my alcohol addiction well to the outside world and knew how to continue functioning in society. However, something had to change, as my close inner circle of family and close friends had noticed how alcohol was affecting my relationships with those I loved the most.
I turned to my strengths to break myself free from my addiction to alcohol. I used my expertise as a graduate scientist and a post-graduate executive coach. My studies and personal experiences gave birth to my method and discovery of The Social Secret. I have now been sober for over half a decade, and I want to help as many women as possible with their own journey to sobriety.
The Social Secret – a life transformation and a new life without alcohol
Since the creation of the Social Secret, in the last few years, I am proud to say I have helped over 15,000 women worldwide change their perception of alcohol through my teaching. And well over 500 women, have now had their lives transformed by breaking free from alcohol addiction.
My unique, one-of-a-kind training is geared towards high-achieving elite women with ages above 45 years old. My clients include C-suite executives, celebrities, and other top-flight iconic women. I offer three different programs: the Discovery Program, the Freedom Coaching Program, and Exclusive Private Coaching.
The Discovery Program follows a 6-week self-study coaching leading to the client’s entry into The Social Secret, one layer at a time. It features a series of workshops, guided imagery relaxation recordings, and the beginning of a Social Secret Journal. It also welcomes participants into The Social Secret community and access to the Discover Sober Community. Here, clients receive support from other individuals who are undergoing the same struggles and those who have already succeeded through the help of the program.
The Freedom Coaching Program, on the other hand, is a specialized program for action-centred, goal-oriented women who struggle daily with alcoholism despite having established successful lives. It brings together science, executive and life coaching, therapy disciplines, and storytelling visioning. The program lasts for four months and only offers limited slots.
I also accept Exclusive Private Coaching for a handful of clients at a time. These are offered to those who prefer individualized support as opposed to group approaches. The Exclusive Private Coaching is non-standardized and is custom designed for each client with a package option of 3 or 12 months.
So, if you are ready to make alcohol your ex best friend and want to start your journey to sobriety then sign up for the Master Class today – click on this link www.thealcoholcoach.com/masterclass/ . It’s a free 60-minute class that will help you kick-start your path to a new alcohol-free life.
Hi, I'm Michela
I’m a leader in the science of transformational freedom for women, and someone previously addicted to alcohol. I have walked the path. I understand your concerns and fears. Here you will find some of my thoughts and insights. Happy browsing!
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